I can't tell you how often clients report going about their day or week, not really communicating, laughing, connecting but then night falls and one partner initiates sex to be met with a disappointing refusal. Shifting the way we think about foreplay could help with this.
Foreplay is often thought of as the brief period of physical intimacy before intercourse, but in reality, it encompasses much more than that. Foreplay can include a wide variety of activities that are intended to build intimacy, trust, and arousal between partners.
In fact, foreplay can begin long before the physical act of sex even takes place. It can start with the way partners communicate with each other throughout the day, or the ways they show affection and appreciation for one another.
Foreplay can also involve a range of physical activities that aren't directly related to intercourse. For example, partners might engage in kissing, touching, massage, or oral sex as part of their foreplay routine. These activities can be incredibly intimate and pleasurable on their own, even without penetration.
It's important to remember that every couple's definition of foreplay may be different, and what works for one couple may not work for another. The key is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about what you enjoy and what you're comfortable with.
In couples therapy, it can be helpful to explore different types of foreplay and experiment with new activities to find what works best for you and your partner. By taking the time to truly connect with one another, you can deepen your emotional and physical bond and enhance your sexual experience as a result.