Books

The books listed below are supplemental readings to help clients with the work they are doing with me. There's a lot of great information waiting for your discovery.

ADHD

• Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD?, Gina Pera
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Melissa Orlov
• Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most Out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder, Edward Hallowell
• Superparenting for ADD: An Innovative Approach to Raising Your Distracted Child, Edward Hallowell
• The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness: Five Steps to Help Kids Create and Sustain Lifelong Joy, Edward Hallowell
• Understanding Girls With ADHD, Kathleen Nadeau
• Attention Girls!: A Guide to Learn About Your ADHD, Patricia Quinn
• Learning To Slow Down & Pay Attention: A Book for Kids About ADHD, Kathleen Nadeau
• Raising Boys With ADHD: Secrets for Parenting Healthy, Happy Sons, Mary Ann Richey

Adolescence

• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, Mary Pipher
• Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends...Rosalind Wiseman
• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, Dan Kindlon
• Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents, Jamie Raser
• Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope With Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World, Rosalind Wiseman**(Recommended)
• Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood, Lisa Damour

Alcoholism, Addiction, Compulsive Behaviors

• Alcoholics Anonymous: The Big Book 4th Edition
• Paths to Recovery: Al-Anon's Steps, Traditions, and Concepts
• Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addition, Patrick J. Carnes

Anxiety, Depression, and Other Challenges

• Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness, William Styron
• An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness, Kay Redfield Jamison
• Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, David D. Burns *** (Recommended)
• The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, Edmund Bourne*** (Recommended)

Stepfamilies

• Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships, Patricia Papernow
• Step Coupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family, Susan Wisdom
• Blended Families: Creating Harmony as You Build a New Life, Maxine Marsolini
• The Co-parenting Handbook, Karen Bonnell
• Divorce Poison, Richard Warshak

Dating

• Really Useful Grown-Up Guide to Dating & Mating, Susan Alexander & Christina Taylor
• Attached, Amir Levine
• Boundaries in Dating, Henry Cloud & John Townsend
• If Buddha Dated, Charlotte Kasi
• Calling in The One, Katherine Woodward Thomas
• How to Be An Adult in Relationships, David Richo
• 121 First Dates, Wendy Newman
• How Not to Fall in Love With a Jerk, John Van Epp
• Conscious Loving, Gay Hendricks & Kathlyn Hendricks

Divorce & Divorce Recovery

• The Truth About Children and Divorce..., Robert Emery *** (Recommended)
• The Good Divorce, Constance Ahrons (dated but still useful)
• My Parents Are Divorced, My Elbows Have Nicknames, and Other Facts About Me , Bill Cochran (5 and up)
• Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd Edition, Bruce Fisher
• How to Fall Out of Love: How to Free Yourself of Love That Hurts and Find the Love That Heals, Debora Phillips
• How to Survive the Loss of Love, Peter McWilliams and Harold Bloomfield
• Love Warrior: A Memoir, Glennon Doyle
• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron
• Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant
• You Can Heal Your Heart: Finding Peace After a Breakup, Divorce, or Death, Louise Hay and David Kessler
• Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas
• The Co-parenting Handbook, Karen Bonnell
• Divorce Poison, Richard Warshak

​Elder Care

• Coping With Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide to Stressed Out Children, Grace Lebow
• The 36 Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for Persons With Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementing Illness..., Nancy Mace
• Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Survive, Claire Berman
• How to Care for Aging Parents, Virginia Morris

Grief

• The Beauty of What Remains, Megan Divine
• The Gift of Grief, Ajita Robinson
• Good Grief, Deborah Morris Coryell

Marriage, Intimacy, Sex

• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Sue Johnson***(Recommended)
• Love Sense, Sue Johnson (great read for anyone)
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, David Schnarch 
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide, John Gottman***(Recommended)
• The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships, John Gottman
• Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up, Harriet Lerner
• Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, Michele Weiner-Davis
• Getting Past the Affair, Donald Baucom
• The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary Scream-free Approach to Rebuilding Your "We" ..., Hal Edward Runkel
• Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On..., Douglas Synder & Donald Baucom ***(Recommended)
• Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, Emily Brown
• After the Affair, Janis Spring
• The State of Affairs , Esther Perel
• Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
• Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski
• She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasing a Woman, Ian Kerner
• The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook, Melissa Jesbian Fritchle
• Healing from Infidelity, Michele Weiner-Davis
• Should I Stay or Should I Go: How Controlled Separation Can Save Your Marriage, Lee Raffel

Parenting and Family Life

• The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness: Five Steps to Help Kids Create and Sustain Lifelong Joy, Edward Hallowell
• Parenting With Love and Logic, Foster Cline
• How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
• Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher
• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, Dan Kindlon
• It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends, Robie Harris
• It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families, Robie Harris
• It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health, Robie Harris
• Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents, Jamie Raser
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families: Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World, Stephen R. Covey
• Positive Discipline, Jane Nelson
• ScreamFree Parenting, Hal Edward Runkel
• For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health, Al Vernacchio
• Positive Discipline, Jane Nelson (any in the series--Adlerian principles)

Partners of Addicts/Codependency/Child of an Alcoholic

• The Intimacy Struggle, Janet G. Woititz
• Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melody Beattie
• Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, and How It Sabotages Our Lives, Pia Mellody

Personality, Development of Self, and Dealing With Difficult People

• Search for the Real Self: Unmasking the Personality Disorders of Our Age, James Masterson
• Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, Paul Mason
• I Hate You, Don't Leave Me, Jerald Kreisman
• The Resilient Self: How Survivors of Troubled Families Rise Above Adversity, Steven Wolin
• Making Peace With Your Parents, Harold Bloomfield
• Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life, Susan Forward
• Why Is It Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism, Sandy Hotchkiss
• The Sociopath Next Door, Martha Stout
• Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You, Susan Forward
• Paths to Recovery: Al-Anon's Steps, Traditions, and Concepts
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, Eleanor Payson
• Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, Susan Cain
• Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, Karyl McBride

Personal and Family Finances

• Who Gets Promoted, Who Doesn’t and Why: 10 Things You’d Better Do If You Want to Get Ahead, Donald Asher
• Smart Couples Finish Rich, David Bach
• Raising Money Smart Kids, Janet Bodnar
• Your Money or Your Life, Joe Dominguez, Vicki Robin
• The Financially Intelligent Parent: 8 Steps to Raising Successful, Generous, and Responsible Children, Ellen Gallo
• How to Debt-Proof Your Marriage, Mary Hunt
• Kiplinger's Retire Worry Free: Money Smart Ways to Build the Nest Egg You'll Need, Kiplinger's Personal Finance Editors
• Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki
• Social Security, Medicare, & Government Pensions: Get the Most Out of Your Retirement..., Joseph Matthews Attorney
• Overcoming Overspending: A Winning Plan for Spenders and Their Partners, Olivia Mellon
• The New Affluence, Jonathan Pond
• The Total Money Makeover, Dave Ramsey
• Your Complete Retirement Planning Road Map, Ed Slott
• Easy Money: How to Simplify Your Finances and Get What You Want Out of Life, Liz Weston
• All Your Worth: The Ultimate Lifetime Money Plan, Elizabeth Warren, Amelia Warren Tyaji
• The Ultimate Cheapskates Road to True Riches, Jeff Yeager

Post-Partum Depression

• Beyond the Blues: A Guide to Understanding and Treating Prenatal and Postpartum Depression, Shoshanna Bennett
• This Isn't What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression, Karen Kleiman

Relaxation and Stress Management

• The Relaxation Response, Herbert Benson
• Instant Calm, Paul Wilson
• Stress Management for Dummies, Allen Elkin
• Stress Relief & Relaxation Techniques, Judith Lazarus

Trauma & Abuse

• Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You, Susan Forward
• The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence, Gavin DeBecker
• The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, Dan B Allender
• The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself, Beverly Engel
• The Sexual Healing Journey, Wendy Maltz
• Healing Sex, Staci Haines
• Coming Home to Passion, Ruth Cohn