Why Divorce Rates Are Declining—and How Couples Therapy Plays a Role
Lately, there’s been buzz about a 27% decline in divorce rates in 2021 and 2022. But is this accurate? A closer look at the data reveals a more complex picture.
While there’s no clear evidence of such a dramatic drop, what is true is that divorce rates have generally been declining over the past decade. According to sources like the National Center for Family & Marriage Research, the U.S. divorce rate remained steady in 2021, with slight increases in 2022. Meanwhile, the U.S. Census Bureau and the CDC report a consistent decline in divorce rates overall—from 9.8 divorces per 1,000 women in 2012 to 7.1 in 2022. The CDC also noted a reduction in the crude divorce rate from 3.6 per 1,000 people in 2010 to 2.4 in 2022.
So, while the 27% figure doesn’t hold up, we can still observe a trend toward more stable marriages—and there are a few key factors contributing to this shift.
The Rise of More Egalitarian Relationships
One theory behind the decline in divorce rates is that more couples are shifting toward egalitarian relationships. In more balanced partnerships, responsibilities—whether in parenting, finances, or emotional labor—are shared more equally. This can lead to better relationship satisfaction, as partners feel like teammates rather than adversaries. When one partner isn’t bearing the full burden of family or financial responsibilities, resentment and burnout are less likely to creep in, which can otherwise lead to marital breakdowns.
But that’s not the only factor contributing to improved relationship stability.
Couples Therapy: Proactive, Not Just Reactive
Another powerful factor in reducing divorce rates is the growing acceptance of therapy as a tool for strengthening relationships, not just for saving marriages on the brink. More couples are seeking out therapy and relational skills training early on, which leads to stronger relationships that are less prone to falling apart.
In my own practice, I’ve noticed this shift. Couples are increasingly interested in preventative therapy and premarital counseling as an investment in their relationship’s future, rather than waiting until they’re at the "last stop before the attorney’s office." This proactive approach allows couples to learn valuable tools for managing conflict, communicating effectively, and supporting each other’s emotional needs before things get too difficult.
When couples come into therapy early, they are often more open and less entrenched in negative patterns. They’re more willing to collaborate and problem-solve, instead of seeking therapy just to "win" arguments or use it as a last-ditch effort to salvage what’s left. And when both partners are committed to the work, the results can be profound.
A Case for Relational Skill-Building
Relational skill-building is at the heart of much of the work I do with couples. I’ve had the privilege of watching couples turn things around—some who were already separated, others who were facing major decisions like having children or ending their relationship—who have gone on to build a stronger connection than ever before.
These transformations are hard work, but they’re also incredibly rewarding. It’s like trying to steer a tugboat that’s been stuck in a riptide for years; it takes time and patience, but with the right effort, it’s possible to change course.
Couples therapy isn’t about giving advice or mediation—it’s about creating an environment where couples can learn new ways to communicate, reconnect emotionally, and rebuild trust. Even when couples come in under the weight of deep distress and hurt, therapy can offer them the chance to move forward, together.
Success Stories: Hope for the Struggling Couple
The couples who come to me in crisis aren’t just numbers or statistics—they’re real people, and I’ve seen countless success stories that keep me inspired. From couples who’ve been on the brink of divorce, only to reconcile and build a renewed commitment, to couples who were separated and ultimately chose to get back together—there’s hope for even the toughest situations.
While not every couple will experience such dramatic shifts, even those struggling with entrenched resentment or difficult circumstances can make progress, provided both partners are invested. The key is staying open to change and being willing to put in the work.
Therapy as an Investment, Not a Last Resort
The decline in divorce rates—while not exactly as dramatic as some claim—reflects a larger trend in our society: relationships are being approached with more care and intention. Couples who prioritize relational skills, seek therapy early, and aim for healthier, more balanced partnerships are more likely to weather challenges and build strong, lasting connections.
If you’re in a relationship and want to avoid the pitfalls of burnout and resentment, consider investing in your relationship now. Just like you might schedule regular check-ups for your physical health, therapy can serve as a maintenance tool to keep your relationship strong and resilient.
Whether you’re seeking therapy for the first time or have been in therapy before, the key is staying committed to the process and working together toward a shared vision of the relationship you want. Relationships aren’t always easy, but with the right tools and mindset, they can thrive.
Have you and your partner ever considered therapy to strengthen your connection?
Build the Relationship You Deserve
With the right tools and insight, your relationship can thrive. Dr. Melissa Hudson, a trusted relationship expert with 15 years of experience, helps couples across the DFW area, including Frisco, Plano, Allen, The Colony, and Flower Mound, TX. Recognized for her compassionate and evidence-based approach, she specializes in guiding couples to break harmful cycles, restore intimacy, and build lasting emotional connections.
Whether you’re facing specific challenges or looking to deepen your bond, Dr. Hudson’s transformative therapy can help you create the relationship you deserve. Learn more about her services here.