Thursday, February 27, 2025 | By: Dr. Melissa Hudson, LMFT-Supervisor
“It’s not me, it’s you.” That’s the unspoken belief many couples bring into therapy. One partner—sometimes both—is convinced that if the other person would just change, things would finally get better.
But what if the problem isn’t a person—but a pattern?
One of the most powerful shifts in couples therapy happens when partners stop seeing each other as the enemy and start recognizing the dance they’ve been stuck in together. And often, this realization isn’t purely intellectual—it’s something they feel in their body. A moment of relief, clarity, even curiosity about themselves and their partner. It’s like unlocking a door they didn’t even know was there.
So why do so many couples start with a “one of us is the problem” mindset?
The real breakthrough comes when couples stop asking, “Who’s the problem?” and start asking, “How did we get here together?” Because once they see the pattern, they can finally begin to change it.
With the right tools and insight, your relationship can thrive. Dr. Melissa Hudson, a trusted relationship expert with 15 years of experience, helps couples across the DFW area, including Frisco, Plano, Allen, The Colony, and Flower Mound, TX. Recognized for her compassionate and evidence-based approach, she specializes in guiding couples to break harmful cycles, restore intimacy, and build lasting emotional connections.
Whether you’re facing specific challenges or looking to deepen your bond, Dr. Hudson’s transformative therapy can help you create the relationship you deserve. Learn more about her services here.